Cognitive Compass
The way we meet our body, our desire, and our emotions shapes the world we experience.
Cognitive Compass offers sex and intimacy coaching & somatic breath work to help you move through what gets in the way of connection, pleasure, and feeling fully alive.
We start with breath.
We use somatic breathwork to slow things down and attune to your body so we can hear what it is telling us.
This is practical, embodied work.
Our bodies carry and communicate so much it is our work to listen.
Demaskus Farmer
Somatic Intimacy Coach
After leaving a sixteen-year marriage and getting sober, I didn’t feel like I had much identity left. I was carrying a lot of religious shame and beginning to question what I had been told about myself. What was off-limits. What was bad for me. What I “should” do.
I spent some time tiptoeing across imaginary boundaries to see if alarms would go off. I felt like a teenager, full of anxious energy, constantly questioning every exchange. Things that seemed to come naturally to other people around dating took an immense amount of calculated effort.
In sessions with my own somatic coach, I began to feel how much of that effort I was holding in my body. I had gone in wanting help with intimacy, but first I needed to recognize the messages my body was giving me.
I was the five-year-old boy being lectured in the backyard for asking the neighbor for a soda. I could feel the shame, but now I was also the one telling that little boy there was nothing wrong with asking for what he wanted.
It felt like another adult was there advocating for me. Someone saying that what had happened wasn’t okay and that it made sense to feel that way. I could let some of that shame go. I had chipped away at the wall that keeps me from feeling allowed to ask.
My own experience led me to train through the Somatica Institute. I’m also certified as a life coach through the Association of Cognitive Behavioral Therapists.
I continue to examine where shame and the things I was taught hold me back from intimacy with myself and those I care about. I am still learning to accept the love I receive.
Working together
We start with a discovery call to talk about what you want help with and decide whether we feel like a good fit. Sessions are available in Sharonville, virtually, or in-home.
My work is guided by my training through the Somatica Institute and my certification through The Association of Cognitive Behavioral Therapists.
Lets connect
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