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Cognitive Compass
The way we meet our body, our desire, and our emotions shapes the world we experience.
Cognitive Compass offers sex and intimacy coaching & somatic breath work to help you move through what gets in the way of connection, pleasure, and feeling fully alive.
We start with breath.
We use somatic breathwork to slow things down and attune to your body so we can hear what it is telling us.
This is practical, embodied work.
Our bodies carry and communicate so much it is our work to listen.
About Caleb Farmer
My path to this work began with sobriety and a year of sitting with everything drinking had been covering up — my patterns, my relationships, and the ways I had been showing up for myself and others.
That internal work led me to Somatica®, and it changed everything. Somatica is an experiential, body-based approach to intimacy and sexuality — less like counseling, more like learning through direct experience and felt sense. Through that training I developed a deep understanding of desire, connection, and the core erotic themes that shape how we relate to ourselves and others.
Today I work as a sex and intimacy educator, working one-on-one with individuals who want more clarity around what isn't working in their relationships and why. I also offer group programming, workshops, and somatic experiences, including breath-work and sound bath sessions. My work is further grounded in certification through the National Association of Cognitive Behavioral Therapists.
The work often moves through three doors.
Different people arrive for different reasons.
Underneath most of them is a voice…
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• Deepening pleasure with yourself or a partner
• Feeling more confident in your body during intimacy
• Staying present instead of getting in your head
• Exploring desire without pressure or performance
• Improving connection and communication around sex
• Rebuilding trust in your body after shutdown or stress
• Working with performance nerves in intimate moments
• Understanding your core erotic themes
• Letting go of shame around arousal, fantasy, or needs
• Enneagram Framed Exploration
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• Untangling shame from upbringing or religious conditioning
• Rewriting old stories about worth, sex, and desire
• Working with body shame or self-criticism
• Exploring identity after faith shifts or life changes
• Learning to feel safe being seen
• Reconnecting to pleasure after long periods of suppression
• Letting go of inherited rules that no longer fit
• Building self-trust after rupture or regret
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Item description• Settling anxiety that lives in the body
• Learning to regulate when emotions run high
• Staying connected during difficult conversations
• Working with overwhelm or shutdown
• Rebuilding a sense of safety inside yourself
• Moving through uncertainty with more steadiness
• Developing tools to return to presence
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• Not AA. If you’re looking for a twelve-step focused program, there are many solid options elsewhere
• Somatic breathwork to reconnect with the body and slow reactive patterns
• Understanding what’s underneath the habit, not just trying to stop the behavior
• Alcohol or substance use
• Gambling or compulsive behaviors
• Emotional numbing or dissociation
• Cycles of relapse and self-judgment
• Feeling stuck after doing all the right things
• Rebuilding trust with yourself
• Learning to respond instead of react
• Creating structure that feels alive, not rigid
• Developing emotional regulation and embodied awareness
• Practical daily practices that support lasting change
• Recovery without labels, shame, or rigid paths
Music helps me make sense of what I’m feeling.
Look for my curated playlists if you are in a music rut and need something new
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